OK guys, how many times have the holidays, or a birthday come around and you have nearly trembled in your boots because you had no clue what to buy? If you are like men I have known, it was almost every time! Most men are just lost when it comes to selecting a gift that the women they love will love and appreciate. So here are a few simple tips to knowing what your lady wants and buying it for her.
First, an expensive gift is not always required! Some men seem to think that if they buy an expensive gift for their lady she will instantly be overjoyed. Then when you give that expensive gift to your lady, she does not react with as much happiness as you expected. And you end up thinking to yourself, “I spent a lot of money on that gift, she should appreciate it”, or, “See? Even when I spend a lot of money on her she is still not happy.” Now, do not misunderstand me, expensive gifts are great, but if it is not something that your woman likes, how can she appreciate it?
Let me give you an example. You are a big fan of sports, with, let’s say, football being on the top of the list and golf being on the bottom of the list. This is simply hypothetical, I hold nothing against golfers, it is only meant to be used as an example okay? Now your lady knows that you like sports so when your birthday comes around she goes out and gets you the finest golf clubs that money can buy and gives them to you. Are you going to be overjoyed with the gift? Wrong! What happens when she thinks to herself “I spent a lot of money on those golf clubs – he should appreciate that fact!” Or, “See? No matter what I do for him it is never good enough!”
Like yourself, receiving an expensive gift does not always mean it will be liked or appreciated. Now like I said earlier, expensive gifts are great, but, they have to be something that will be appreciated.
Let’s go back to the football – golf story. You like sports. As a reminder, football is at the top of that list, with golf at the bottom. Let’s say that one year your lady did not have much money to spend on a gift for you, so she went out and bought you some golf balls and a few golf tees. Would you appreciate that gift? She did not have a lot of money to spend on your gift but at least she made the effort, so you should be very happy about it right? Wrong! Some of you are probably already thinking that if she had just bought you a lousy football tee-shirt or a football hat you would be happy right? Some of you are thinking that if she bought you tickets to the next Super Bowl game, complete with round trip airfare and a fully paid for room in a 5 star hotel you would really be happy right? Yeah well, now you are just beginning to get the right idea.
You would be happy with either gift. Even though the more expensive one would make you happier I know! But why would you be happy with these gifts? Because they relate to something you already enjoy. The same is true for your woman. Get her a gift that you know she will like.
Now I can hear many of you already saying to yourself, so, how do I figure that one out? Well, it’s easier than you think.
Men, just because the gift is expensive does not mean it is the right gift. Yes, it is very true that women love expensive things. Yet when it comes to receiving a gift from the man she loves, she would rather have it be something that she has an interest in instead of an expensive gift she doesn’t like. If you can get a gift for your lady that she really enjoys, it not only shows her how tuned in to her you really are, and this gentlemen, means a lot more.